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Tuesday, July 31, 2018

#Fragrances

"A woman isn't fully dressed," she told me, "until she has put on a fragrance." I agreed since that had been my philosophy for quite a few years. I always made sure I had a fragrance to spray on my wrists  and the nape of my neck and behind my ears, every day. She brought the subject up after having noted that she liked my perfume. There are a few people who come by my cash register that mention that to me.

One Saturday as I was pushing my cart in the grocery store, a young man passed by me heading out and stopped about six steps behind me and turned around and and headed back to me asking what perfume I was wearing that he wanted to get it for his girl friend.

The sense of smell is powerful. It can remind you of when you were a child and breakfasts on Sunday mornings when dad used to cook pancakes and bacon. It can remind you of sitting on your grandmother's lap when you were small or a dear friend you used to hang around with. This sense of smell makes me wonder if we have a 'spiritual' nose that can detect another's spiritual condition.

A bubbly, bouncy gal came into Walgreen's with her nephew, about ten years old, Sunday evening. She had a few purchases and he, also. She started out by announcing that she was a Jersey Girl and just visiting here. I asked if she had been born in New Jersey and she told me that she had been born in New York, but her family had moved to Jersey when she was four and she was most definitely a Jersey Girl. I told her that I was born and raised in Memphis, but came to Virginia from Wisconsin. A few comments later she thanked me for being so nice and said, "God bless you." which led me to give her my business card which led her to have tears well up in her eyes as I shared about my son's accident as the reason for writing my book. In just a very few seconds we became friends and were hugging one another over the counter.

My reason for sharing this is the proposition that her spirit sensed my spirit as a fragrance touches a nose and I, hers. We will probably never see each other again in this world, but I believe we will see one another again. There was a connection and a real warmth as she bubbled over how good Jesus was and all the while her nephew was standing aside and shaking his head over our antics. This was, for me, a God moment as we, two strangers were enjoying the kin-ship we had.

2 Corinthians 2:15 says that we are the fragrance of Christ to God among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing. Yes, we can sense that something different in others who have the Spirit of Christ residing in them and there is a connection. It makes life delightful to those who are being saved and, by contrast as the verse tells us, those who are perishing may have an automatic dislike and revulsion to a believer. The sense of smell is powerful.

One note here: you can remove that strong smell of onions on your hands after chopping a batch by rubbing your hands across the flat side of a stainless steel knife. You may not want to smell like onions all day.















Sunday, July 29, 2018

#LearningToDance

Each era has its' own distinctive form of dance. I grew up in the 40's when the Big Band Sound was popular and I loved to do the jitter-bug. I still love that music and I could probably do the jitter-bug if there was anyone around that would dance with me. Then there was jazz and slow-dance music before be-bop and I really have no idea what they are dancing to today.

Slow dancing requires some leadership.He puts his right arm around her waist and she places her left hand on his shoulder and his left hand holds her right hand and they become one unit. He directs her using a bit of pressure with his fingers on her waist and guides with his left hand. He is leading and she is cooperating and following and they move in unison, gracefully to the rhythm of the music.

My feet kept getting in the way. When I danced slow-dance, I was nervous and not anticipating or being sensitive to the small directions and we were not quite a unit. It was not pretty. I needed to relax and trust my leader. I needed to learn to forget about what others were thinking and focus on my partner.

Marriage should be like a couple dancing. Husbands, God designed to lead and wives, to follow. There is no dictatorship in dancing and no resistance; he is leading and she is following and they are moving gracefully to the music. God said that it was not good for man to be alone and He created a woman, equal and compatible with man. She completed him and together they become one unit. Each one wants to make the other one look good and together they watch out for the good of the unit.

Submission is an OK thing in marriage. It doesn't take away anything from the person when the good of the unit is more important than the good of one half of the whole. Leading by dictating does not work because there are equals in the unit and respect rules out treating another as subservient. In fact, she has real value, she has a way of seeing things that he doesn't have and in not appreciating what she has to offer is handicapping him and the unit.

There are a lot of 'but, what ifs' that should be addressed in this dance and I hope you bring them up in the comments of this blog, so we can talk about some of them.









Saturday, July 28, 2018

#TheSmartPhone

So many people walk around with their heads down and thumbs moving across the small keyboard and they are smart as long as they have their phone, but what are they missing? No one ever could believe, when I was growing up that you could put your phone in your back pocket. Our phones were connected to the wall and were only used to talk with another person. We had to be smart without a phone and when we walked, out heads were up and watching people pass by and saying Hello and waving to others across the street and window shopping. Today, people are missing making friends with strangers on the sidewalk and seeing the great sale going on in the little shop around the corner.

Several times I have asked my son a question about something in history or some place or a quote and he will tell me to wait a second while he locates his smarts and then he will give me the answer. In seconds he can download so much information that would take hours looking it up in a library. It is wonderful and beneficial in so many ways, but there are consequences built in this device.

Perhaps you can download the entire Bible on your phone and have a quiet time while driving, but how much time is spent talking to God via smart phone and how much time does moving your thumbs around on your phone take away from actual praying? I do not own a smart phone and there are times I really wish I had one, but if I ever get one, I am going to make sure that I keep balance and moderation in my use of it.

A phone conversation was my first introduction to my husband. I was living in the nurses quarters of the hospital while I worked my way through college and the phone rang one evening and we talked for at least two hours. He had gotten my name from a friend who also told him where I lived and without ever seeing him, I got to know him by the phone. The story is in my book, "The Treasure is the Trip" which can be found at www.thetreasureisthetrip.com, if you are interested in how it turned out. So, I do believe in phones, but, please don't let owning one replace time spent developing your relationship with God.


Friday, July 27, 2018

#TheDeclaration

After so many abuses over the years, the Second Continental Congress of the then thirteen states met to declare their independence from England. They felt the need to explain why they wanted to be separate and to form a more perfect union. The document they came up with after weeks of debate was a formal, official, unanimously signed document. It held the foundation of the United States of America and is a work of art.

There is another even more official declaration we should take notice of. To help us see the magnitude of the word - declaration -  lets consider the dictionary's meaning.
Declare: 1: to make known formally or explicitly   2: to state emphatically or affirm  3: to acknowledge possession, officially

God spoke through David when he wrote Psalm 19. "The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim His handiwork. Day after day they pour forth speech, night after night they reveal knowledge. They have no speech; they use no words. Yet their voice goes out to the ends of the earth, their words to the end of the world."

Just think of it. The heavens are proclaiming - see here this is God's possession. They are yelling at the top of their voice formally and officially that God made them. No words are spoken, but one cannot but understand what they are saying. One cannot but see the magnificence of His handiwork and gain knowledge of Him. This declaration goes on 24/7, it is not a one time statement. This is God's universe because He made it.

 "This is my Father's world, I rest me in the thought. Of rocks and trees, of skies and seas His hands these wonders wrought. And tho the wrong seems oft so strong, God is the ruler, yet."






Thursday, July 26, 2018

#WhenIAmWeak

In yesterday's post, I said that I defy weakness. I do, when it comes to my muscles because I know what the results will be and I do not want to wind up limp and needing help to even get into my car. I want to put off as long as I am able needing a wheel chair.

There is a weakness that I relish. I have learned by doing trying to do stuff beyond my natural abilities that I have many weaknesses. One reason I loved my husband is that he was strong in many places where I was weak and together we made a pretty good team, because I was strong in many places where he was weak. I needed him and he needed me.

So, it is with each of us and 'the friend that sticks closer than a brother'. We need Jesus and only where we see our weakness do we turn to Him. If we assume that we are so capable and wise and have all we need, we will not turn to the source of ultimate wisdom.

Solomon, as he took office as king, prayed for wisdom and it appears God answered that prayer. He wanted wisdom to rule effectively and he did. The Kingdom of Israel became one of the richest and most powerful kingdoms in the world under his rule, but Solomon's personal life is another story.

God tells us to pray for wisdom and He will not chide us for asking. Wisdom, from God's standpoint is the ability to apply the right principles to the right situation. Solomon, evidently, did not consider his need for the decisions he would make in his personal life. He had the power to do as he pleased and the funds and he chose to take wives from many pagan, Godless nations and that was the rue of him. Israel during King Saul's reign was at it's zenith and from his own family, began the fall. If only he had asked God for wisdom for his own personal life, perhaps, things would have turned out differently.

It is a good thing that we are weak, for then we have a need and as we turn to our Heavenly Father God for wisdom, we are also developing our relationship with Him. The more weaknesses you have, the more opportunity to turn to Him and the stronger the relationship between you two, gets.

If you do not see weaknesses, I suggest you ask someone who knows you pretty good. I'll just bet they can share one or two with you that they have noticed.





Wednesday, July 25, 2018

#WannaGetSmarter

There is a Rewards Program where I work as a cashier and it all hinges on a customer's phone number. This program is a good thing because points earned turn into cash that can be used against a future purchase. Most people who come by my cash register have signed up and most remember to post their phone number as I start scanning their purchases. Some, do not remember and I remind them and some don't even remember their own phone number! There are not a just few who go to their purse or pocket and pull out their phone to look up their own number.

It makes me wonder what condition their brain is in. I do know that if you do not use your arm or leg muscles they will atrophy over time. My son reminds me to exercise so I don't get stiff and weak and I have a routine I do with some light weights. I say no to the bagger at the grocery when he asks me if I need help taking my groceries out to the car. I need the exercise. Yes, I will be celebrating my 83rd birthday in a couple of months and I do look elderly, but I am not going to take the easy route and get weaker from lack of use. No, I defy weakness!

Back to the brain after that bunny rabbit chase. Bill Gothard, at a seminar I attended in Chicago, told of his poor grades in elementary school and a good teacher who had noticed this suggested that he memorize scripture and see if working his brain might make a difference. It did and remarkably, his grades improved. The brain needs a work-out every day just as your arm and leg and heart muscles need to work-out.

The organizations I belonged to as a child had us regularly memorizing Scripture and to this day they are there and come to my mind. Even hymns I sang over and over again and were memorizing as I sang, come to my mind. It is wonderful. I challenge each of you to memorize just one verse a week  or, maybe, make it one verse a month, if your brain can't take it weekly. I challenge myself, also, because it has been a while since I did that.


Tuesday, July 24, 2018

#WeAreSurrounded

No, it is not Indians on the war path. No, it is not an army besieging the citadel. Rest easy, we are surrounded by the Almighty Infinite God. There is no place in the entire universe that we can get away from the presence of God. This God is everywhere, every second surrounding us and not just passively there as inert as air, but listening and watching and working and He has a plan for each of us. This truth should give us assurance and peace.

When the first one of my five children was preparing to leave home to go a university about an hour away, it dawned on me that I wasn't going to be around to make sure he ate right, or that his socks matched or that he went to bed at the proper time. I wasn't going to see him every day and be able to check how he was doing. There was a scary moment as I dwelt on those thoughts, but,then the thought came that God would be there even closer than I could ever be and He loved my son even more than I did and it would be far better if I just trusted the great I AM to take care of him. I was going to grow in a different aspect of trusting my Father God as my son left home.

This idea of learning to trust is somewhat challenging when you have had some control or been aware of things going on around you, but, when you are pretty much ignorant of stuff, you don't even know how to pray, what to ask for and feelings can rule and sometimes the worst scenario comes to my mind and I can become a worry wort.

There have been times when I felt that God didn't care about me, wasn't hearing me, not answering me. There have been times when I felt very alone and those feelings made me sad and I had a big grey cloud hovering over me all day. Well, for crying out loud, why should I stay in this state? Is it just because I want to feel sorry for myself? That is the answer - I want to feel sorry for myself because no one else does.

Enough of that! Do something! What? Use your head, dummy! Make your mind work! There are good things to put your mind on, like something real, like God's Word! What has God said that I can take to heart? " I will never leave you or forsake you." "I have plans for you, plans for good and not evil." "I will be with you until the end of the world." "I have loved you with an everlasting love". "Nothing can separate us from the love of God."

I can choose what state I want to be in. I can choose to be miserable or I can choose to have joy. Personally, I'd rather have joy. There are times in life when trusting in the Omnipresent, Omniscient, Omnipotent God of the Bible is the only thing that brings joy. Today, I choose Joy.





Monday, July 23, 2018

#SophieTheCat

We added an addition on to our house the year our daughter was married. The addition included a nice open roomy family room with a dining area at the end where the kitchen was and a connected garage off the kitchen. There was sliding patio doors leading onto a deck and a fireplace opposite the doors. The fireplace was a Heat-a-later brand firebox with vents and fans to circulate the hot air. Outside the fireplace was enclosed with siding, but beneath the box was a sheet of plywood. The base of the bump-out was about 12 inches off the ground and it snows a lot in Wisconsin and drifts get very large and tall.

Thirty-four years after the addition something very strange happened to me one November morning as I walked into the kitchen to make coffee. There was a cat standing in my kitchen and we did not own a cat. She looked up to me with a 'we're friends, aren't we' kind of look and gently walked past my feet with just a touch of her tail gliding past my ankle. I was shocked to say the least and the first thing I did was to go a check the patio doors to see if my son had left them cracked open. Nope, all was snug and tight and I could not explain the cat being in my kitchen.

I took it to the front door and set it on the deck and locked the door. The next morning I went to make coffee and there this cat was again, standing on my kitchen floor. I was stymied. Once again, I took it to the front door and placed it on the deck and locked the door. Then I went through the house checking for openings and down to the basement where the addition had only a crawl space and an opening of about 2 feet by 3 ft in order to have access under that part of the house.

That opening was the only explanation I could come up with, but how did the cat get under the family room? Next step, investigate the perimeter of the house. No openings to be found until I got on my hands and knees and peeked under the fireplace. Aha! The plywood had rotted enough around the edges where a persistent little cat who was not going to endure a Wisconsin winter did everything
she could to make a way for her to get into a nice warm house.

She did make it back in the third time before I could get the repairs done and I decided that she deserved to be adopted. Her name is Sophia because of the wisdom she displayed. That has been almost four years ago and what a delight she is and how thankful I am that she came into my life.


Sunday, July 22, 2018

#IsChurchImportant

My dad thought going to church was so important that he would take his family to church even if we had to walk. I do not remember why we walked or for how many Sundays we walked, but I do remember walking with my mother and grandmother and sisters, Bible in hand, beside my dad. It wasn't a short distance either, seven or eight blocks. Perhaps the car was broken down or maybe we did not even have a car for a while, so we walked there and back, to Sunday School and following worship services.

It was there that I memorized scripture verses and learned about Joseph and his many colored coat and about David killing the giant with a sling and stone and about Daniel in the lion's den. I learned to pray and sing really old hymns, like Amazing Grace. Not only did being there teach me so much, but the actual dedication of my dad to make sure we got there did a marvelous thing for my respecting the importance of church attendance.

Jesus died for the church, His bride, as it is called in the New Testament. The church was really important to Him. If it was that important to Him, it should be so with us. Getting up on a Sunday morning and getting ready to meet with God and His people should elicit an excitement and make us want to look our best to worship the King of Kings.


Our getting there with Bible in  hand also speaks volumes to our neighbors and who can tell if God will use our dedication to help others see what they should be doing on a Sunday morning. The writer of Hebrews tells his readers 'to not forsake the assembling of ourselves, as with the way of some'. There must have been some 'I'm saved and going to heaven and that's all I care about' believers even way back in the first century. Taking the family on a picnic or to the Colosseum for the game of the day would work if it was rare, but frequently takes away the importance of church.

See you in church, Sunday.

Saturday, July 21, 2018

#TheSinUntoDeath

Yes, sweet cheeks, there is a real place called Heaven and there is a real place called Hell. Yes, dear ones, just as life is real and death is real, also, Heaven and Hell are real. And, because God, the source of life, is Holy, Righteous, Completely Pure, it follows that He has to be Just and it also follows that justice will be meted out by Him and each one us will come to trial and face this just Judge.

The magnificent thing for those who have realized that fact and, while they were alive on this earth, believed that God provided their own personal requirement for justice in the death of Christ is that they have an advocate before the court. Jesus, The Christ, will represent them. Guilty will be the plea for all of us, but, for some, Jesus will say, "I paid for each and every broken law that this one was responsible for, on the cross, and they are free to go."

That is in the future, for sure, but, in the here and now lesser judgments are taking place. John tells us in his first letter that there is a sin leading unto death. This letter was written to followers of Jesus who understood that they were eternally alive, could not ever die, spiritually. Their body would die. Their spirit would be separated from their body when they breathed their last breath and the house they had lived in would begin decaying, but their real being, their spirit, would continue on forever. John was cautioning believers that we will sin because we are human and we should check ourselves regularly to nip-in-the-bud those thoughts, words and actions that go against the principles of God.

A believer can continue to rebel against God's principles and quench and grieve God's Spirit and sooner or later, even through chastisement, go willfully on their own way and God, because He loves so fiercely, will bring death to their body. He has His reputation at stake and that believer isn't representing Him properly and, perhaps, influencing others away from God. This, too, is justice satisfied.

 The greatest sin we can commit is the sin of unbelief. An unbeliever is called an "unbeliever" because he doesn't believe God. He is in actuality calling God a liar. That is the one sin that will send him to Hell. That is the one sin that cannot be paid for. At the final trial, and it will be a short one, because only one sin will be brought up and that is the question, "Did you believe what God said about Jesus?"

Since they didn't believe while alive here on this earth, justice will condemn them and the condemned will spend forever away from the God they wouldn't trust. They will be forever separated from God while believers will be forever in God's presence. Heaven and Hell, justice satisfied.



Tuesday, July 10, 2018

#AnsweringTheQuestionaire

A questionnaire was sent to me to fill out regarding the advertising of my book "The Treasure is the Trip" and one question asked, 'what is the overall theme of my book?' and I decided to answer it here first to put my thoughts together.

There is a danger when one is raised in church, any church. The ritual can become the reality. One can get lost in the surface stuff and lose sight of object. That is the state I was in for years and totally unaware. But God ( I love that phrase, but God) loved me so much that He would not let me stay there.

 Each one of us is unique and He knows just how to touch us to get our attention, so He gave me the sense of un-peace. There is no other term that describes how I felt and I began searching to fill that need. God was right there at the right time and we had a confrontation in my bedroom in the middle of the night. My book is an attempt to record how I got there and how God responded and the years following, some filled with traumatic experiences as when my son  was in a head-on collision resulting in a traumatic head injury and was admitted to the hospital under a mistaken identity.

There are many who fit into my category of 'un-peace'. I am confident that state is not unique. My goal for this book is to help others to be able to see how much God loves each of us and works to get us to see our need and then for us to develop such a relationship with Him that our journey on this earth becomes a precious treasure.

Friday, July 6, 2018

#InstrumentFlying

It is normal to feel disoriented. That is what my son, the helicopter pilot, tells me. When the day is clear and the weather is good, a pilot is able to use all the senses he was born with. He can see the landscape ahead and to the left and right. The instrument panel is before him and the controls are in his hands and at his feet. He can tell how fast his plane is going by the gauges and if his attitude is correct and if there is enough fuel. His inner ear is in tune with the gauges and he is comfortable with how everything is working together, then, everything changes.

Now, he is in a cloud and cannot see ahead or to the right or left, anything but milk. For all purposes, he is blindfolded and that is when the disorientation phenomenon occurs. He is forced to look at the instruments and they tell him one thing and his inner ear is telling him something entirely different. He wants to trust his inner ear. His natural self is telling him to trust his inner ear and my pilot son tells me that if he does, he is doomed because there is no truth to measure against - just feelings.

To dispel the disorientation you must force yourself to keep checking the instruments, all the gauges and calculate according to what they are telling you and ignore what your inner ear is telling you. Your mind judging and calculating the truths that the instruments are telling you helps you overcome what your natural self is telling you. The instruments will save you, if you count on them.

As Proverbs 3:5 and 6 tells us: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, but in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths." The Lord has given us His Word to direct our paths and when the day is clear and the weather is good, we usually just use our natural senses to move ahead. We can see ahead, well, a little bit ahead, and to our left and right and we make plans based on our observations and goals and move forward. We don't see the need to check in on the instrument of God's Word.

But, life is not always fine and dandy and we can find ourselves in 'milk' instantly and we are forced to decide whether to use our natural inclinations or to check the truth of God's Word. Our natural self fights to be in control and we want to trust our inner feelings, but we are doomed to failure if we do.
We may be disoriented a bit, but as we force our minds to check the Word and make calculations based on God's word, we will successfully get through the 'milk'.

Why do you think that God's Word has survived all the attacks on it for thousands of years? Why do you think God has saved it? Because it is ultimately important for our survival and it is there waiting on you to read it and believe it and prove it.

Have you checked your instrument panel, today?

Sunday, July 1, 2018

#HeartProblems

There was such a discontent in my heart and I had not talked to anyone about it, my husband or a friend or God. I was deeply bothered and did not know why and couldn't put it into words. I dealt with this for three years doing the only thing that came to my mind to do and that was to go to my Bible and read, mostly from the New Testament trying to find an answer.

Scripture tells us that we can find God when we search for Him with our whole heart, but I was not searching for God, I was searching for peace. There was a small degree of peace for a short time after reading the Bible, but it did not last very long and I would find myself needing to open the pages again and again.

You will have to read "The Treasure is the Trip" to see what transpired in my life to give me the peace I longed for.

The discovery of peace with God led to peace from God which led to the peace of God. Each pronoun gives a different description of peace. Jesus was continually saying, "Peace". He wants us to have the fullness of peace in our hearts. He knew my heart's desire and tho I wasn't directly searching for Him, He came to my rescue and there never has been that unrest in my heart since then.